We Are in This Together Moms


As I sat down to write my column this month, I struggled. Not because I have nothing to say, but because I have a one-track mind right now about a problem we are dealing with involving one of my daughters. I have a lot to say about what has been going on this week, however I like my columns to be fun and light-hearted and share a touching message about how great it is to be a mom.. but you know what? Sometimes, it’s just really, really hard to be a mom. Sometimes it’s hard to find anything light-hearted in what you are dealing with.

This week has been one of those times. As we all know there are so many outside factors that are working against us as mothers, but the absolute hardest part of this week for me has been the realization that one of our biggest obstacles as moms is other moms. Moms who have chosen different methods and different values to use in raising their families. I am not saying they have chosen the wrong methods and values, but different. I respect that not everyone will make the same choices that I have made for my family. And that is good, actually. I mean how boring would the world be if we all raised our kids the same way, right? As mothers we should acknowledge that everyone has their reasons for their ways and respect them.

We are not the judge and jury of each other. A mother has to answer to no one when she makes a decision to protect her child from a situation. Nor should any mother have to answer to anyone as to why she is alright with her child being in that situation. We should be supportive of each other and try to understand others’ views and actions even when we disagree.

And, my goodness, moms, we should keep it off of social media if we don’t agree! Let us practice what we preach about cyberbullying.

Just be nice to each other. We are all doing the best we can. It is a hard job and there is no one perfect way to do it. We all have different views, opinions and approaches, but no matter how we go about it there is one common practice among us all; we do what we think is best for our kids. Sometimes we make mistakes and sometimes we surprise even ourselves at how good we really are, but, I promise, each one of us does what we think is best at the time. We are in this together moms.