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Brian Roberts Holds a Summer Camp for Kids Ages 7-15

Toledo native and Portland Trail Blazers professional basketball player, Brian Roberts, is making his way back home. He returned this summer to his alma mater, St. John’s Jesuit High School, to teach Toledo youths the game of basketball. Using his passion for education and love of inspiring others to stay motivated to achieve goals, Roberts is holding a summer camp for boys and girls ages 7-15. Let your aspiring athlete shoot some hoops with the best. T-shirt, lunch and drinks are included.

Thursday, August 4 & Friday, August 5
8am check-in | 9am-2pm | $80
5901 Airport Hwy | St. John’s Jesuit High School & Academy
BrainRobertsBasketball.com

“From Your Big Sister; Who has Experienced the Horrible Words High School has to Offer…."

For years, and recently with greater frequency, we’ve been hearing about severe issues of bullying in our schools. Our children are subjected to horrible words and actions that make them feel like they are worth so little. In too many cases, we have lost young people to suicide, from the lack of self-worth and the sense that “things will not get better”.

My youngest daughter is currently enrolled at Maumee High School. My older two daughters graduated from Maumee within the last four years.

My youngest had a hard time with bullying at school the last few months of the school year and seemed to have lost all hope. My oldest daughter, who also had horrible bullying experiences when she was in high school, sent this note to my youngest. I am sharing it as I was awed by the honesty, support, and hope her words provided to her youngest sister. 

“You think now that everything people say about you is what will define you for the rest of your life. So right now, it seems like “what’s the point of the rest”. But, then you graduate, and you leave all of the people who are making you feel like you aren’t even worth another breath, you get to become whatever kind of person you want. And once you graduate, everyone else’s bullsh*t notions and drama-ridden thoughts of you become absolutely nothing. 

Tina Johnson is a mother of two daughters and lives in Maumee, Ohio. 

I would never even have been trying to give you advice [seven years ago, when I was the same age you are now] because I thought my words and my life were worth nothing because of the god-awful people, who stopped at absolutely nothing to make me feel the worst about myself. 

If there is only one thing I can ever do for you as your big sister, it’s to tell you all of this. You are not what people say you are. If, at anytime, someone tries to make you feel guilty for something you have done, or said, or even just felt, don’t even give them a second thought. You have no one to explain yourself to. Someday, you will find the people in your life who are there to help you make yourself happy. But, even those amazing people are not in control of your happiness, just you are.

And I know that with how crazy talented you are at everything you take up, and how good of a person you’ve been since the day you were big enough to help another human being, that you will never have a problem being happy as you.

We’ve never had a lot in common, but we do have this right now. 

It took me far too long to figure it out (because I didn’t have a big sister to clue me in), but very soon you will realize how amazingly petty and stupid these people are/were, and you won’t care what they thought or think of you. 

This stuff happened to me at exactly the same age that it is happening to you and I swore I would never live through it. I know that you understand how bad I felt everyday because you were right there to see me go through it. But, high school is not life. Life has so much more to give. Once you graduate, ALL of it becomes nothing but a tiny glimmer in the rear-view. 

I’m not saying that there won’t be horrible people, who will try and make you feel bad. Some just never leave the high school phase. But, once you know how amazing you are (and you are), the things people say, and do, to tear you apart won’t even bust a single thread.

Don’t give them your thoughts, your words, and most importantly, your tears. Look the other direction, right into the drama-free, sadness-free, and bully-free future you have coming. 

Right now, just help yourself become the even more amazing version of yourself that you are meant to be. Don’t give up. Don’t listen to anyone’s negative thoughts about yourself. You will realize how perfect life, and you, are very soon. 

You will always have people in your corner. And I will always be here to remind you of this advice. I promise.”

Toledo Metroparks BugFest Features Exhibits by The National Center for Nature Photography

Saturday, 8.20 / Secor Preserve Metropark

Children and adults alike will enjoy and explore the big world of bugs an the Toledo Metroparks BugFest extravaganza where the whole family will find something to love. Learn about all things big and small in the bug world, and take a seat at exciting presentations like the Dr. Insecta Show to view the insect world like never before.

The National Center for Nature Photography will also have multiple exhibits where you can get up close and personal with your favorite summer creatures. Come out and fill your belly as well with local food trucks that will feature edible insect treats. 10am Saturday, August 20.

Secor Preserve | 10001 W. Central Ave.
419-407-9700 | metroparkstoledo.com | Free

The End of the Nap: A Survival Guide

All good things must come to an end, even (sigh), your child’s daily nap. Not only is nap-time a necessity for babies and toddlers, it provides a much needed reprieve for parents and caregivers, an opportunity to re-charge and re-boot. It can be tough to navigate the change from nap to none. Experts suggest naps should continue as long as needed, there is no magic age when kids stop napping, ranging from 3-7 years old! To identify the signs that your child may be ready to stop napping, read on.

Sleep Is Essential to a Child’s Growth and Development

While sleep needs can vary from child to child, on average, a 1-3 year old will sleep about 12-14 hours per day, and a 3-6 year old will sleep about 10 hours per day, with children giving up the nap altogether by age 5-7, outlines Dr. Robert Salzman, a retired Toledo-area pediatrician with over 35 years experience. “If you think of our bodies as a machine, sleep makes sense. You don’t run a machine without any down time… it breaks down. Our bodies are an exceptional machine that need down time as well. Energy that we take in as food is used for activities during wake times, but we also need energy for growth during sleep, not just linear growth of height and weight, but brain growth also… Sleep is as much a mandatory part of our daily life cycle as wake periods are.”

If young children are not getting the requisite 12-14 hours per day, their growth and development is slowed. “Naps are critically important to the developing brain to recharge circuitry after the intense learning that occurs during wakefulness,” adds Dr. Marianne Black of Franklin Park Pediatrics in Toledo. “Naps are not just a good idea in the early years but they are a necessity as sleep pressure (the need to sleep) builds up. Sleep is the only cure to restore normal function to the brain.”


Dr. Marianne Black advocates the importance of a nap for young children.

 

Be Flexible with an Earlier Bedtime to Protect Sleep Needs

By the time children are 18 months, they will be down to one nap a day, and in the majority of children, that nap disappears between age 3-4 (about 20% of children still take a daily nap at age 5). Dr. Black advises, Children give clear cues which indicate a nap may no longer be needed, such as staying alert longer without seeming tired or cranky into the evening, and difficulty falling asleep at bedtime when a nap is taken. 

Use the “Sleep Begets Sleep” concept to your advantage, while it sounds counter-intuitive, it holds true for babies and toddlers. If your child is napping but tires before normal bedtime, let them go to bed earlier until their body is ready to function on less sleep. Keeping a child up longer at night in hopes they will sleep later the next day is futile; they will wake up at their normal time (or earlier). 

Quiet Time Provides a Break for Parent and Child

The end of the nap is a wonderful opportunity to teach your child to master the life skill of down time. “A quiet time alone is encouraged even if no sleep time occurs… the child could lie on the bed and read books or listen to music or quiet pretend play. The American Academy of Pediatrics and pediatricians alike recommend NO technology, screen time, nor TV in a child’s sleep space; it is too distracting and not restful or beneficial. The need to be alone with their thoughts is a very good idea,” Dr. Black urges.

Letting your child learn to fall asleep on their own is also important. “It is highly discouraged for a parent to lie with the child to get them to sleep at nap or bedtime. It is a healthy separation for both child and parent.”

As children get older and the need for napping diminishes, it is tempting to fill up their days with activities, but it’s just as important to promote quiet down time. Even a quiet hour, unplugged, with no commitments, will benefit your child (and you) immensely.

Back To School Guide 2016

A new year and a new grade means new friends, new rules, and a new environment. While some students look forward to the first day back, others dread it, mourning the loss of summer. Make the transition as smooth as possible. 

RISE AND SHINE

Back to school, back to sleep 

When summer break screeches to a halt, how can you make sure your children are waking up on time with enough sleep? 

Start early by starting late. With school approaching, start prepping kids for that dreaded wake-up time by enforcing bedtimes a few weeks before classes begin. Remember, kids need at least eight hours of sleep a night, so gradually start pushing bedtime and wake-up times by 15 minutes, to help ease the transition. 

Get back into routines. Summer means a lack of routine and the absence of a rigid schedule. Children thrive on routine, so establish some daytime structure before school starts. Pretty soon, kids will swap days of play for hours sitting at a desk. Consider adding activities like a reading hour to get kids back into upcoming school and sleep schedules. 

Limit screen time. About an hour before bedtime, start winding down by turning the screens off. Encourage your kids to read a book in bed, spend time drawing, or discuss goals for the school year. Shifting from entertainment to “edu-tainment” helps stimulate the mind without interfering with a healthy night’s sleep. 

Live for the weekend. These changes in routines are tough— students are typically exhausted at the beginning of the year— so use the weekends to let your kids play catch up. 

Be realistic. Kids are going to resist. They may be tired and cranky. It’s okay. Start revamping their sleep schedule early to allow for the transition to go slow.

The morning frenzy— a rush to the bathroom, clothes on the bedroom floor, deciding what to wear can sometimes be the hardest part of the day.

What’s up with uniforms? 

Pros: 

  • Parents buy fewer clothes and do less laundry.
  • Uniforms save time; students don’t have to think about what to wear to school each day.
  • Mary Schoen, who attended St. Ursula Academy as a teenager, says uniforms “evened the playing field” because students “couldn’t tell the haves from the have-nots. The competition was more about grades, which classes you were in, etc.”
  • Jennifer Gross, who attended St. Joan of Arc and Central Catholic High School, explains that uniforms helped prevent cliques because they “eliminated the competition for having the best/most expensive clothes.”
  • Gross adds, “They made you take school more seriously. When we had dress-down days it was hard to pay attention. You just feel better when you look your best.”

Cons: 

  • Laundry must be done more frequently (unless you buy several uniforms).
  • Uniforms can be quite pricey, and students don’t wear them outside of school.
  • Students can’t express their individuality with clothes.
  • Uniforms aren’t flattering or comfortable for every body type.
  • Students can be punished for not being completely compliant.
  • Uniforms may be uncomfortable, especially in extreme hot or cold weather.
  • Uniforms can make the transition to college more challenging. Gross discloses, “It was nice not having to pick out an outfit every day. I struggled when I went to college getting used to that, since I wore uniforms from kindergarten to senior year.”

Creative ways to make a uniform unique

It’s all about accessories! Jennifer Gross, wore uniforms from kindergarten through high school, she reflects, “We tried to make them unique by wearing fun and crazy colored socks and shoes, especially since the girls had to wear skirts. We would put ribbons or fun headbands in our hair to add some ‘glam.’”

Mary Schoen, who attended St. Ursula 40 years ago, said: “Girls went crazy with socks, stripes, bright colors, wild designs, to reflect personalities and rebel at some level. Hair ribbons were also a tool to stand out, as were shoes. From neck to knee, we were dressed alike, but we went all out trying to be individuals.” However, according to current uniform guidelines, socks must be solid-colored in navy, white, or black. Schoen jokes, “We probably messed up the sock thing! Some psychedelic socks in the 70s!”

Check the dress code

Each district, and even schools within a district, have varying dress rules. Check with your individual school before the academic year commences. Most schools post their dress codes online to make it easy for parents. 

Many districts, such as TPS and Springfield, do not allow hooded sweatshirts, sweatpants, leggings, yoga pants, flip-flops, hats, book bags, tank tops, or coats. Skirts must be an “appropriate length” (usually knee-length or longer), and while neckline is not typically specified in the rules, girls with revealing decolletage have been asked to change or cover up. Some schools also have rules about piercings (particularly facial piercings) and hair color/style. To avoid inappropriate t-shirt designs (hateful material, drug/sex references, etc.), many schools have adopted the policy that shirts cannot have any sort of design/logo.

TECHNOLOGY

Tablets vs Textbooks

Some local schools have technology programs where each student has a school-issued iPad or tablet that contains his/her textbooks and assignments. In our technology-laden world, the educational use of technology maintains student interest while preparing students for the future. Paper waste is dramatically reduced, and students are no longer lugging heavy textbooks and papers to and from school. Tablets can provide immediate feedback on assignments, shown to improve student achievement. Grades can often be entered faster and more efficiently with electronically completed assignments.

As with other forms of technology, tablets pose other issues. When the school server crashes, every student is affected, and not all students have access to internet at home. Technology can provide students with more excuses for not completing their assignments: the internet wasn’t working, the program wouldn’t open, the iPad kept crashing, etc. While all students have electronic insurance, there are still typically costs associated with repairs and replacements for both parents and the school. Fixing tech problems can be time consuming. Without a book, students cannot interact by underlining, commenting, or highlighting, a useful tool for many visual and kinesthetic learners.

Using iPads heightens concerns with cheating, but teachers can eliminate the ability to cheat. For example, teachers can switch off the wifi in their classroom. Another option is to create the test online, and then students must access the test through an app (such as Padlock) that locks the student’s tablet and prevents them from opening any other site. Programs exist that allow teachers to monitor all of the screens in the room simultaneously on a single device.

 

Mercifully easy lunches

Kids don’t care if their food photogenic

Super-moms who pack Pinterest-approved quinoa salads for their kale-eating kids are undoubtably proud. 

But for the rest of us? We know green is synonymous with “no way” and kids only really want lunch money. Don’t compare yourself to moms on the internet— packed lunches can be cheap, easy, tasty and kid-approved. 

Looking for lunch ideas that are mercifully easy? These might make the PTA moms jealous. 

Not your average quesadilla

We know, it’s hard to improve on a dish that is essentially a carb stuffed with cheese, but hear us out. The quesadilla-concept is perfect for school lunches— or breakfast on the go— by swapping cheese for peanut butter, or another nut butter, like almond or cashew, spread on a whole-wheat tortilla and top with fruit, like strawberries, diced apples, banana slices, or chocolate chips and shredded coconut, and fold in half. This killer combo is tasty cold or treated to 15 seconds in the school microwave. 

Food to be played with 

Deconstructed classics are all the rage for playful gourmands, but we doubt kids are concerned with gourmet food trends. Enter: the kabob. Whether it’s fruit on a skewer, a sandwich broken into bite sized parts, or veggies and dip, creative kabobs are perfect for kids who like to play with their food.

Smooth moves

Want to up the ante on a juice box? For kids who thrive on smoothies, the cold-sipping drinks of summer don’t have to remain a distant memory once school hits. Smoothies can easily be made the night— or nights— before and frozen. Pack the frozen drink in the morning and let it defrost by the time the lunch bell rings. 

Parfait perfect

For kids with a sweet tooth— or a mouth full of them— this brunch-time favorite is a great lunchtime solution. Yogurt, fresh fruit, granola and honey come together for a protein and vitamin rich meal that’s colorful, delicious and nutritious. 

Ready to make salad happen? 

Woah there! Getting ready to fill out a FAFSA, too? How old is your kid, anyway? 25? While salad might be the stereotypical anti-kid food, easing into leafy-green territory doesn’t have to be completely painful as long as you consider two kid-approved starting points: carbs and sweets. Introduce veggies and greens through a pasta salad, or bring out the sweet flavors of peppers, carrots and onions with dried fruits and bright vinaigrettes.

Cursive: a lost art 

Many schools in the country have abandoned the art of cursive writing. Common Core does not require it; instead, the curriculum emphasizes keyboarding and computer skills, so many schools have dropped or deemphasized the teaching of cursive. At least 41 states do not mandate cursive, and the reviews are still mixed as to whether this is beneficial or detrimental to this generation’s educational experience. Supporters of cursive argue that it helps fine and gross motor skills, improves patience and concentration, and allows individuals to read important historical documents, such as the Constitution and the Declaration of Independence. Others contend that cursive is a dying art and not necessary for today’s world; instructional time can be better spent on more important skills.

A Modern Day Brady Bunch Family

In 2013, my life changed completely. As a single mother of two for a few years, life consisted of working, raising my children and hoping to finally find someone who wanted the same things in life that I did: family adventures, dinners, game nights and endless Kodak moments. I met Matt at a photoshoot for his business and left with a very good first impression. He was smart, funny, and loved his kids… a huge breath of fresh air. We talked over the course of several days and he asked me if I would join him for dinner. I happily accepted his offer.

After three months of dating, we decided to have our children meet each other. There was an instant connection between all of us. After a matter of months, we made the BIG move and we all began to live together. We have now been blessed with a new baby. Matt always said this would bring our blended family together. He couldn’t have been more right.

Our amazing children are Riley who is 10, Gavin and Maddox who are both 8 (two weeks apart), Bella and Mason who are both 6 (also two weeks apart), and Weston who is 1. We love and treat each child as if we have known them since the day they were born, and it truly feels as if we have. Our children are very active with baseball, basketball, soccer, gymnastics, quarter midget racing, boy scouts, drum lessons, guitar lessons, school events, summer camps and many family activities. 

Standards for living

We set high standards for our children and expect them to be honest, kind and loving members of this family. We sit down for a family dinner each night where we talk and nobody leaves the table until everyone is finished. Riley talks about how much he loves my cooking and reminds me often that from the moment he tasted my cooking, he knew “it was going to work out well.” 

The children do small daily chores to help out. We mediate MANY disagreements and are always suggesting ways to handle life’s situations. We teach life lessons, such as handing out carnival tickets to reward good choices which get cashed in for rewards. 

We both sleep very little and, it seems, many days we simply run on coffee and love. What is amazing is that Matt is just as invested in this family as I am. Neither one of us is above any household chore or parenting role. There are no limitations about which child we are “allowed” to parent. We show each other respect and our love for each other is continuously growing, even when we think it couldn’t get any stronger. Our love for this family is what makes it all work. We have been engaged since May 2015 and we are currently planning our wedding for October 2017, exactly four years after we met.

Being a modern day Brady Bunch is no easy task, especially without the Alice. We learn something new every day. It’s expensive, exhausting, challenging, and extremely rewarding. We are silly and fun. We are strict with our rules. We are a typical family, just jumbo sized.