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20 Things That Surprised Me About Having A Teenage Boy

I grew up the middle of three girls, sandwiched between two sisters. Yup, I’m just like Jan Brady, minus the bonus brothers.

My sisters and I filled our teenage years with activities like sports, theater and student council. We also filled them with hairspray, platform sandals and scrunchies. Living with sisters meant I was never exposed to the reality of life with a typical teenage boy.

I think that’s why my teenage son constantly surprises me. There are so many things about having a teenage boy in the house that I didn’t expect or were just plain different from how I grew up as a teenage girl. Here are 20 things, both funny and serious, that surprised me about having a teenage boy.

1. How much he enjoys playing video games

This is his favorite activity to do once he’s done with school, work or extracurriculars. I guess I thought he’d read a book or watch movies like me.

2. How much time he spends playing video games

Not only does he like video games, but he is content playing them for hours. And don’t get me started about waiting for him to wrap up a game to come to dinner!

3. How many rolls he can eat at a restaurant

He can eat a dozen rolls slathered in butter and then chase them down with a huge steak. It’s amazing.

4. How many rolls he can eat and NOT gain weight

This one’s not fair! All I have to do is look at a roll and my waist expands an inch. Yet my teenage son devours a dozen without a smidgen of fat appearing anywhere.

5. That he would find potty humor so funny for so long

I thought he’d outgrow finding bodily functions so funny. I thought wrong.

6. That he never, ever wants to talk to me about girls

Not even a little bit. I’m ready with excellent advice should he ever bring it up.

7. That I’m the embarrassing one, not his father

How is it that when my husband and I rock out to Bon Jovi it’s only me who mortifies our son? According to my husband, it’s a fact that all teenage boys find their mothers embarrassing.

8. How bad he smells after working out or playing sports

The scent is strong, odiferous and lingers on everything from sports equipment to the upholstery in the car. Yikes!

9. That he would know the name, number, college, and position of virtually every professional athlete

My son forgets to take out the trash, yet he remembers every statistic about the Detroit Lions’ 4th round draft pick in 2021.

10. That I’d be jealous of the way my teenage son talks about sports with his father

Maybe it’s because my husband, not me, also knows every statistic about the Detroit Lions’ 4th round draft pick in 2021.

11. He rarely comments about my appearance, but when he does, I take notice

Recently he told me he liked my shirt, which was an old one from the back of my closet. It’s now my favorite shirt. Because my teenage son said he liked it.


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12. That I have to look up to his face

At least once a week I do a double take as I gaze up at his face, towering above mine. Wasn’t he just a baby?

13. How deep his voice sounds

Just like his height, I’m astonished that that deep voice is coming from my little boy.

14. How big his shoes are

His shoes are like aircraft carriers next to my rowboats in the mudroom. You could land an airplane squadron on those things.

15. How much he cares about his friends

He adores his friends and loves spending time with them. This one surprised me because I feel society doesn’t portray strong friendships between teenage boys.

16. That he cares about his hair

He might not use a plethora of products like I did back in the day, but he still wants his hair to look just right.

17. That he answers text messages with one word

I get Yes, No, or Ok. I’m not looking for a novel, but a few more words would be appreciated.

18. That I’m so impressed by the man he is becoming

Seriously, I’m so proud of him, whether he’s holding the door open for someone, rocking a test or just smiling at me from across the room.

19. While I’m also still surprised by the child he still is

He leaves his dishes on the counter, doesn’t pick up his clothes off the floor and I still take him to the pediatrician.

20. That I would love him so, so much, with everything that I am.

I’m not surprised that I love him, but I am astonished by how much I could love my teenage son. It’s with everything I am—and I wouldn’t have it any other way!

Katy M. Clark is a writer and mom of two who embraces her imperfections on her blog Experienced Bad Mom.

Vital Health—One Child and Family at a Time

Staff Photo (left to right): Madisyn Maag, SWT; Trey Odenweller, QMHS, CDCA; Asha Pearson, LSW, Youth Program Manager; Edward Summers, QMHS, CDCA, Youth Case Management Lead; and Jamie Hales, QMHS, CDCA

Jacob Spellis remembers exactly what it felt like to fall through the cracks. As a young student struggling with behavioral issues, substance use and a learning disability, he wasn’t seen as a child in crisis—he was seen as a problem.

“I got kicked out of school. I got labeled early,” Spellis recalls. “No one asked what was happening underneath. I needed help, not punishment.”

Today, Spellis is the CEO of Vital Health, a behavioral health organization that’s reshaping how kids and families access care in Northwest Ohio. His mission is personal: to make sure no child has to walk the same path without support.

A whole-person approach

At Vital Health, services go far beyond therapy. The organization provides integrated outpatient programs for youth ages 5–17—including:

  • Individual & group counseling
  • Case management
  • Psychiatric services
  • Trauma-informed clinical care
  • After-school day treatment programs

“We’re not just treating symptoms—we’re creating a system that sees the whole person, the whole family and brings care to where it’s needed most,” Spellis said.

One unique feature is genetic testing for medication management. This helps reduce trial-and-error when prescribing treatment, easing the frustration for families and youth alike.

After-school programs that heal

This fall, Vital Health is expanding its after-school behavioral health programming. The program provides a structured, therapeutic environment from 4-6:30pm, Monday through Thursday, including transportation to and from school.

Kids receive snacks, meals and engage in age- and risk-specific groups, such as:

  • Art therapy and skill-building activities
  • Social-emotional learning workshops
  • Mental health and substance use support groups

“Fun is part of the formula,” said Krystal Freyre, chief marketing officer. “We want kids to feel safe, engaged, and hopeful—not like they’re in trouble. Our after-school program was designed as a safe space where kids at risk can thrive and heal.”


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Healing families, not just kids

Vital Health believes that supporting children means involving the entire family. Many parents who witness progress in their kids choose to engage in services themselves.

“Systems of disease don’t just start with one person,” Krystal explains. “They usually run in the family. If we can address the system, we can improve the outcome for the youth.”

Schools, partners and community

Vital Health works hand-in-hand with schools, ensuring that students aren’t simply suspended or sent home when they act out. Instead, they’re connected to restorative supports.

“This isn’t about fixing kids,” Krystal emphasizes. “It’s about healing what’s hurting them.”

Living proof of transformation

From a troubled youth to a visionary leader, Spellis embodies the hope Vital Health provides. His story reminds families and children alike that transformation is possible.

“I always felt that no one cared about me,” he reflects. “I just needed someone to ask what was going on at home. Now, I get to be part of that change for others.”

More information on Vital Health 

Programs serve ages 5–17 (and some 18 if still in high school). Seasonal programming includes spring, fall, winter and a summer mental health camp. Transportation is provided when possible.

Vital Health. 111 Clinton St., Maumee. 419-740-3022. [email protected]. vitalhcare.com.

Lucas County Children Services Seeks Foster Parents to Bring Love and Stability to Children in Need

Lucas County Children Services supports local foster parents.

Sherry Dunn has her own version of the adage “It takes a village to raise a child” when it comes to being a foster parent.

“It takes a village to raise, protect and educate a child,” said Dunn, foster care and adoption supervisor at Lucas County Children Services. “If you’re going to become a foster parent, you’ve got to get your village in order.”

Dunn added that apart from that advice, Children Services provides support to foster parents – a group that she and her team are trying to grow.

“Foster care provides temporary, alternative care for children in a state-certified home while the staff works with the birth family with the goal of reunification,” Children Services explained on its website. “Foster parents provide safety, stability and love to children during a difficult time in their lives.”

Dunn further explained that Children Services works with the birth family, “but sometimes the best thing is for us to remove the kids from the home and place them with foster parents.”


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“We’re always looking for caring, committed adults to open their homes and hearts to children who need temporary care and support,” the agency said.

Dunn said, “There’s always been a need. Now, we have fewer homes and more kids coming in to care.” She said about 20 years ago “we had close to 500 homes. Now, we have a little over 200.” The overall drop in population in Toledo and the aging of previous foster parents who are now retiring contribute to the reduction.

“Right now, we’re looking to find people who are able to be foster parents,” she said.

Dunn and her team make themselves visible in the community in several ways. For instance, they staffed a table in the children’s play area at the recent Toledo Jeep Fest. “We target the Family Zone because that’s where parents are with their kids, and it gives Sherry and her team the opportunity to have conversations to get recruitment efforts going,” said Kevin Milliken, Children Services’ public information officer.

Milliken added that Dunn’s team attends other festivals, parades, and conducts Zoom meetings.

“There are a number of ways to interact,” he said, especially through a good old-fashioned call. “Some people prefer to have a phone conversation with Sherry and her team,” he said.

“You don’t have to be a parent to be a foster care giver,” Milliken said. “You can be single, or an empty-nest couple. There are lots of scenarios in which people can be great foster parents.”

For special-needs children, there is a call for foster parents with experience in mental health, developmental disabilities, special education and law enforcement, Children Services said.

New foster parents go through training in sessions online and in the Children Services’ offices, at 301 Adams Street in Toledo.

Milliken said the number of foster children cared for fluctuates monthly, but ranges from 800 to 1,000. The age is from birth to 18 years old, with the biggest group – 51 percent – age five and younger.

Children Services first tries to place children with a relative or close family friend – kinship care. “We’re hoping that those kin are reunified,” Dunn said, “and that the kinship foster parents will become foster parents for us and foster other children.”

Dunn’s message to the Toledo community is simple and direct: “I tell people that these are our children, Lucas County’s children. We need to do this for our children.”

For more details, visit https://lucaskids.net/foster-care/ or call 419-213-3336.

Inclusive Playgrounds and Resources in the Toledo Area

There are several new opportunities for play around the Glass City, including playgrounds that are accessible for all children! We put together a list of some of our favorites. Did we miss any? Leave us suggestions in the comments! We are always happy to add more resources to the list.


Perrysburg Inclusive Playground

by Mercy Health
Rotary Community Park
26350 Fort Meigs Rd., Perrysburg

The Perrysburg Inclusive playground includes safety and accessibility features such as rubber pavement that is red in areas near swings and ziplines for children who are visually impaired, as well as ramps that lead to playground structures instead of stairs! Special designs have made their slides and swings accessible for those with hearing impairments and low muscle tone. Learn more on the Wood County Plays Facebook page.



Carter Park Playground

401 Campbell Hill Rd., Bowling Green

Wood County Plays is also responsible for the newest inclusive playground in the Toledo area. Located in Bowling Green, the Carter Park Playground’s construction began in late May, 2022. Though the park is not open as of the publication of this article, kids in BG will certainly appreciate everything it has to offer, from a wheelchair-accessible log and swing to a seven-foot-high climbing course. To see the updates on Carter Park Playground’s contsruction, visit the Wood County Plays Facebook page.


Flagship Collaborative Play Place

Lakeview Park
1100 E Perry St., Port Clinton

Flagship Collaborative Play Place is entirely wheelchair accessible from top to bottom! It features a beach, lakefront design and play structures including boats, a boardwalk and marine animals. The tallest structure in the middle of the playground is a lighthouse reminiscent of the Port Clinton historical lighthouse. 


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Secor Barrier Free Playground

Secor Metropark
100001 Central Ave., Berkey
419-360-9179

Secor Parks Barrier Free playground features a Rock-n-Raft for seated play and slide transfer for easy access to slides. Wide ramps and low handrails make the park wheelchair accessible, and they offer rings, hand cyclers and a sensory wave climber to work on upper body strength. The entire playground is soft-surfaced for accessibility everywhere!


Doneghy Inclusive Garden

Toledo Botanical Garden
5403 Elmer Dr. Toledo
419-270-7500

The inclusive garden at Toledo Botanical Gardens is not only accessible for those with limited mobility, but also provides sensory components in the form of textured structures and walkways, and enclosed gazebos. All the pathways and surfaces are concrete and ADA compliant. Pathway edges are textured and multi-colored for visitors with vision impairments, and turf is included in between paths to provide a soft surface. Wheelchair spaces are placed between benches so wheelchair users can sit next to their friends and family as opposed to in front of or behind them.


Accomodations from the Toledo Metroparks

The Toledo Metroparks offer accessibility services for their programming and events. Accommodation requests can be made for necessary services 72 hours prior to any event. For more information or questions, contact Ashley Smith at 419.265.2920 or [email protected]. If guests feel that park services are not accessible or would like assistance with utilizing the metroparks, they can contact the metroparks at 419-407-9700 or an email request can be submitted here. Face-to-face meetings with park staff are available upon request. 


Glass City Riverwalk

983 Front St. 419-407-9719

The Glass City Riverwalk features accessible elements for all visitors to enjoy! The adventure boardwalk is wide enough for wheelchairs and provides seating areas along the way. Discovery play and a rock climbing feature is available on the Riverwalk for sensory support and educational play.


The ACT Disability-Friendly Toolkit

5604 Monroe St., Sylvania
419-885-5733

The Ability Center of Greater Toledo has provided a list of accessible resources for families in need. These include education, housing, employment, healthcare, recreation and more. The toolkit provides vital information for children and families with disability and provides support for those struggling. 


 

Woodlands Park

429 East Boundary St., Perrysburg
419-872-8020

In late June 2023, Woodlands Park in Perrysburg joined the list of local parks that now offer inclusive equipment to their visitors. The inclusive playground at Woodlands Park follows in the footsteps of Bicentennial and Municipal parks, which were also replaced and re-opened earlier in June 2023. In addition to its inclusive playground, the park offers visitors an 18-hole disc golf course, shelter house, picnic pavilion, walking path, and flower garden.


Ottawa Park

Ottawa Pkwy, Toledo. 419-245-2875

In July 2024, a new inclusive playground at Ottawa Park opened near the Liz Pearson open-air shelter house. This was a $1 million investment and The Ability Center of Greater Toledo and the Toledo/Lucas County Disability Commission were consulted during the process of designing this inclusive playground. It also includes features that are iconic to Toledo, such as Jeep Wrangler and the High Level Bridge architecture.


Sylvania’s First Inclusive & Accessible Community Playground

Sylvania’s First Inclusive & Accessible Community Playground opened at Stranahan Elementary School, 3840 N. Holland-Sylvania Rd. This new space offers play for all abilities. Building the playground was supported by volunteers, including Johns Manville, F3, Metroparks Toledo, The Ability Center, Sylvania Lions Club, Carpenters Local Union, UT Football and SJS Investment Services

3840 N. Holland-Sylvania Road, Toledo

 

Through Lemonade Stand, Young Siblings Provide Blankets for Hospitalized Kids

Gavin and Grace Gibson started a lemonade stand to help kids in hospitals.

The brother-sister duo of Gavin and Grace Gibson’s lemonade stand in their Northwood neighborhood is more than the stuff of summertime tradition – it has raised more than $700 for fabric that will become blankets for local hospitalized children.

That’s because the Gibson siblings know what it’s like to be in a hospital.

Gavin, 10, had wanted to have a lemonade stand, but it was the experience that Grace, 8, had in February that led to a mission. “When I was in the hospital, I saw how all the nurses were nice with all the kids, and I thought maybe I should help,” she said.

Gavin also had been hospitalized, a year earlier.

The Gibson siblings hope to make at least 75 blankets through the money they have raised.

So they came up with Project Warming Hearts. “We picked the name because we warm hearts by helping children and giving them blankets to be warm and comforted,” Grace said.

The Gibson family – including mother Ginger and father Gary – spread the word about the project ahead of the siblings setting up their stand. On the day of the lemonade sale in June, the Gibsons raised $550 in donations. “We have very generous family and friends,” Ginger said.

Word spread further. They set up their stand one more time, on Aug. 2. They raised $186, for a two-day total of $736.

“There were a lot more new faces this time,” Ginger said. “As with the last one, when they found out what [Grace and Gavin] were doing, they gave more.”

The money is being used to buy fleece, which is already being made into blankets by cutting a fringe and tying them. Grace and Gavin are doing the work, helped by their grandfather, Gary Gibson. The blankets will be distributed to kids in Nationwide Children’s Hospital-Toledo and the Ronald McDonald House Charities of Northwest Ohio. The kids then can take the blankets home.

The Gibsons have no idea how many blankets they’ll provide. “We are going to purchase as much fleece as we can and make as many as possible,” Ginger said, adding that the family hopes to provide at least 75.

Grace and Gavin’s parents, both of them physical therapists, said there’ll be another lemonade stand day if there’s time before the siblings return to school.

“We’re really proud of them for putting others above themselves,” Ginger said of how she and her husband feel about what Grace and Gavin have done and are doing. “All the money they get [from the stand] goes to blankets. That’s a pretty great thing for kids their age.”

Supporting Freshmen Teens: Start the year off right

The transition from middle school to high school can be a tricky one. From social to academic, finding the right equilibrium can feel like a balancing act.

Northview High School Principal, Mark Pugh, has seen students struggle with this time and time again.

“Students will tend to struggle with the transition from junior high into high school.There’s a little more freedom, more class periods and more responsibility,” he said. “That’s a big change for a lot of them.”

While it may seem impossible to clear the hurdle in the moment, with the right amount of support and discipline, students can find ease. The move into high school marks a shift into greater self reliance. As teachers stop giving constant reminders, a student has to take on a bit more to be successful. On an individual level, freshmen can make their lives easier by staying organized from the beginning.


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“Writing things down, writing down your assignments, keeping a calendar, things of that nature allows them to structure their work a little bit more,” said Pugh. “It helps because they’re going to have more classes than they’re previously accustomed to.”

Building a support system Freshmen shouldn’t go through this new stage of life alone. Having a parent in the wings helps ensure a student’s success.

“As parents, we tend to want to let our kids spread their wings and let go of the proverbial back of the bicycle seat, and sometimes that can work out well for a child,” explains Pugh “but sometimes they need their parents to spot check them and make sure they have everything taken care of.”

Finding that balance between freedom and structure is key as teens navigate this new world. Having a safety net while taking on a larger workload can make all the difference in a student’s life. With the right strategies and support systems in place, students can approach high school, not with fear but, with confidence.

“It is a big change, it is a lot of responsibility and overall their first steps into a bigger world,” said Pugh.